The good news is that long-distance relationships can often benefit, and sometimes the heart grows fonder. This article will help you overcome geographical obstacles and make your partner more special. Warning! These tips for long-distance relationships boil down to one word: effort. Respect each other’s schedules Be clear about your routines and schedules. It cannot […]
This is a very common question that I see both in my practice and with people who attend the Gottman Singles workshop. Single people who want to heal from previous relationships should reflect on it so they can learn and grow. Four Horsemen Which role did the Four Horseman have in your relationship? It is important to […]
Trust in relationships is often thought of as rebuilding trust after an event where trust was damaged or lost. Trust issues can arise from dishonesty and unreliability. Let’s put our efforts into building trust right from the beginning of a relationship. Here are four concrete, practical ways to build trust and keep it. BUILDING A EVERYDAY TRUST […]
Are you single and looking to meet people? Do you want to know if there is anyone “worth” exploring the potential. These are some steps to take when you enter the dating world, regardless of your age or stage. EXPECTATIONS: A RECIPE TO DISASTER or SUCCESS? In the world of dating, expectations are important. Although it can be difficult […]
Teenage years share many similarities with the terrible twos. Both ages have a lot in common with the terrible twos. Our children are often doing new and exciting things but also pushing boundaries and throwing tantrums. Both ages have the same developmental challenge: children must learn to separate themselves from their parents and assert their independence. They can […]
It is natural to want your child to be protected from difficult emotions. Parents and caregivers do their best to distract from or diffuse difficult emotions. This can be helpful, but it should not replace the need to feel your feelings and take time to understand them. It is important to remember that emotions are there for a […]
It can happen in a split second. It can happen in a split second. It is amazing how efficient our brains can mobilize a fight/flight response. This leads to withdrawal, full-on engagement or feeling frozen (as in Deer in the Headlights). We believe there is something wrong in our partner’s brain. But not with our brains. That thought is […]
Infidelity victims can feel like they are on an emotional roller coaster. I’ve heard from many couples who have been involved in an affair that they feel intense emotions. Many betrayed partners will ruminate on their infidelity and ask “How could they do that to me?” Or “I feel so angry and resentful it scares the […]
Many people were shocked when Bill and Melinda Gates announced their divorce. It seemed as though the couple lived very closely together from the outside. After 27 years of marriage, why do they do this? While overall divorce rates in the U.S. have dropped since 1980, divorce rates among those over 50 rose to historical levels. The rate […]
